Nancy Heche

Nancy Prickett Heche is a psychotherapist, author, part-time college professor and activist. She is the mother of five children, including actress Anne Heche. In her memoir, When the Truth Comes Out, she describes her experiences after her daughter announced she was involved in a lesbian relationship with Ellen DeGeneres.

Biography

As a child, she attended a Methodist church and was raised in Indiana. In high school she met her future husband, Donald Joe Heche.

During the 1960s and 1970s the family belonged to a fundamentalist church and resided in an Amish settlement. In a 2009 profile of her daughter Anne the New York Times described Nancy as an "eerily compliant wife". The New York Times in paraphrasing her 2006 memoir, characterized Nancy Heche as someone who "essentially missed the '60s ... never reading a newspaper, listening to the radio or watching television."

In 1983 Heche's husband died of AIDS. Upon learning of the diagnosis, Heche became aware that her husband had been leading a double-life as a homosexual. Three months following the death of her husband Heche's 18 year old son Nathan was killed in a car crash. In 1997 Heche's daughter, Anne, publicly announced her relationship with DeGeneres. Heche said, "She became sort of the poster child for coming out and bringing the whole homosexual issue into the public eye and even glamorizing and humorizing it, laughing about it, making it just another kind of love relationship." And that it was, "Like a betrayal of an unspoken vow: We will never have anything to do with homosexuals."

After reading the Old Testament book of Isaiah, Heche became convinced that change was possible for her daughter, and likened what she believed would be their eventual reconciliation to the parable of the Prodigal Son.

Activism

Heche believes that homosexuality is a sin and that through faith in Jesus Christ people can change their sexual orientation, noting that she isn't attempting to convert gays. She speaks in many areas of the country, often at churches and other organized events, about leaving homosexuality. Speaking about Heche's activism, Melissa Fryrear, a former lesbian and director of gender issues for the government and public policy division of Focus on the Family said, "It’s wonderful because she obviously offers two unique perspectives, one that she is the parent of someone involved in the homosexual lifestyle and as a spouse whose husband led a secret life."

Heche has been a speaker for Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays and Gays (PFOX).

On September 8, 2006, Heche's was the "Back of the Book guest" on the Fox News show The O'Reilly Factor. She appeared twice on the Christian Broadcasting Network's Engaging your World in December 2006.

Heche adheres to the Bible's proscription that Christians must be tolerant and accepting of homosexuals. She said, "We are supposed to be known by our love. So to categorize it or think it’s going to be different for someone who is living homosexually is a misconception. We just show love."

She been criticized by those who believe that homosexuality is determined by God. And on the other hand she has been accused of being too accepting of a lifestyle condemned by God.

Daniel Kusner, writing in the Dallas Voice, was critical of Heche for failing to protect her children -- and for glossing over her failure in her memoir. According to Kusner "When she’s not thoroughly detailing the minutiae of Don and Nancy’s budding romance at Bible camp, Nancy’s book primarily focuses on Don’s deception. She continually explains that even though Don was a raging freak and obvious liar, she never answered the constant ringing of the Clue Phone. Faith in her Bible-sanctioned marriage made Nancy blind, deaf and stupid."

Published works

• The Truth Comes Out (Regal, 2006)
• The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Same-Sex Attraction, co-authored with Joe Dallas. In the book Heche discusses how she overcame her hatred of the homosexual community. Charisma Magazine said the book is "the one-stop resource is for anyone—families, pastors, counselors, those struggling with same-sex attraction—and addresses the difficult questions that come with the territory.

See also

• Love Won Out
• Christianity and homosexuality

External links

• Homosexuality in the Family, Heche talks about her husband, the death of her son and her reaction to Anne Heche's relationship with Ellen DeGeneres in this video
• Obituary of Donald Joe Heche