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This user misses Doug Taylor.

Enabling bullying

By unblocking User:EEng you are effectively saying that certain people can do whatever they want on wikipedia, harrass and bully anyone they want as long as they are popular enough and "it's only a joke". Admins are meant to stop this behaviour not to encourage it. Please consider your position.Nigel Ish (talk) 13:41, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Whatever else one might say, my post at issue was completely serious, and presented as such, so your idea that there's an only a joke defense in play shows you have not the slightest understanding of what's going on in this controversy. E Eng 02:53, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

@EEng: Yes, Nigel Ish seems to associate you with the "it's only a joke" defense—which does not apply here—but perhaps you should reflect on why that might be. Paul August ☎ 12:36, 29 March 2021 (UTC) (EEng's self-appointed personal scold.)[reply]

Welp, if the purpose of the block was to stop disruption, it failed in that purpose. --Deepfriedokra (talk) 14:37, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
And that's because people like you support disruption as long as it's from one of the favoured few. If a normal editor acted like EEng then they would be told to stop and if they persisted would be very quickly permablocked with no way back, but as long as you've got admins who've got your back you can do anything. Wikipedia cannot pretend to take harassment seriously while this "one rule for them and another for us" continues.Nigel Ish (talk) 15:02, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
And if you think your characterization of DFO has even the slightest validity, then you really have not the slightest understanding of what's going on. DFO absolutely hates my guts.^[FBDB] E Eng 02:53, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
@EEng: Now, now. None of that. I absolutely hate when you add content that is insulting/belittling/so insensitive of feelings that it is indistinguishable from cruelty. all kidding aside --Deepfriedokra (talk) 10:48, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
Together we've beautifully illustrated the distinction between criticizing the edit, not the editor – the comment, not the commentor^[1] – which is indeed the at the heart of all this. Look, when the tenth person in a row showed up to seriously propose that the article read ...
Keiynan Lonsdale is a Nigerian-Australian actor, dancer, and singer-songwriter known for roles in The Divergent Series: Insurgent (2015), The Finest Hours (2016), and Love, Simon (2018). Tree has also worked as an MTV VJ, and released original music recordings.
Lonsdale got his first acting job in 2007, with a bit dancing part in the film Razzle Dazzle: A Journey into Dance. The following year, tree appeared in an episode of the Australian television medical drama All Saints. Tree released a single on iTunes titled "One and Only" in 2014. Tree then played a supporting role as Uriah Pedrad in The Divergent Series: Insurgent (2015), the second film in the series. Tree briefly reprised the role in The Divergent Series: Allegiant (2016). In 2016, his single "Higher" was included on Connor Franta's curated album Common Culture, volume 5. Tree next appeared in the historical drama The Finest Hours (2016) as Eldon Hanon, the youngest sailor involved in a rescue at sea. In 2015, tree auditioned for the role of Jefferson Jackson but this role was given to Franz Drameh.
Tree identifies as queer and prefers not to label treeself to a specific sexuality.

... I'll admit I went a teench overboard. But still it's the concept, not the concept-or. all kidding aside E Eng 14:34, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
Yes, at least a "teench", but thanks for admitting at least that (a little more of that would go a long way). But it's the "overboard" thing that people will take notice of, not the other. Paul August ☎ 14:55, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
Well you must admit that Tree identifies as queer and prefers not to label treeself to a specific sexuality qualifies as overboard as well, so my reaction can't be called entirely disproportionate. Being labeled transphobic didn't have much of a calming effect either. Ya know, if GW had simply said, "To be clear, you're criticizing the idea of using tree in the article, not your fellow editors, right?", I'm sure I would have said, "Well, I did let myself vent a bit there, and I know I need to keep in mind that not everyone understands why we can't incorporate an avant-garde wording like tree into an article", and that would have been the end of it. But no, she had to go all ex-arbitrator authoritarian on me.
Remember that her original justification for removal was NOTFORUM, which was clearly inapplicable – whether you like the form of expression or not, my post directly addressed the wording of the article. The later shifts in rationale (BPL? No? OK then, how about NPA?) make it clear that the starting point was a visceral dislike, and the reasoning was ginned up later. E Eng 15:39, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

@Nigel Ish: I realize you are angry, and that was a heated utterance. However, it's 1) a personal attack, and 2) quite unfounded. At no time did I say the block was wrong or that he should be unblocked. In fact, I said that his conduct is becoming increasingly inappropriate and that he needs to stop. Thanks, sorry bish1 --Deepfriedokra (talk) 15:27, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Hi, Nigel Ish. I understand your point. But I assessed the consensus of the ANI discussion and found it to be obviously in favor of an unblock. When an admin finds an obvious consensus, I think their appropriate action is to implement that consensus. That's my position. Bishonen | tålk 15:35, 27 March 2021 (UTC).[reply]

(multiple e/c's, i expect this post is less useful now) It's a constant source of bemusement to me that people otherwise so enamored with the idea of civility can say, repeatedly and with a straight face, things like "people like you support disruption as long as it's from one of the favoured few" (emphasis mine). That kind of vilification of other people's motives is an exact replication of the tactic "Democrats want to destroy America". It is much worse, much less civil, much more damaging, than rudely saying someone is being dumb. In a way I guess it's understandable; people are emotional. I'm certainly not proposing some kind of action. I'm sure Bish certainly expected incivility from people when she unblocked. But the logical dissonance is kind of jarring. Perhaps Nigel Ish would like to rephrase, and comment on the cost or benefit of actions, not your motives. Or maybe they wouldn't. --Floquenbeam (talk) 15:41, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
Fundamentally there seems to be a refusal to admit to responsibility for admin actions - If you use admin powers either by blocking or unblocking then you personally must take responsibility for your actions (rather than hiding behind "it was consensus that forced you to unblock". Bishonen's actions, by unblocking EEng, supports the toxic culture on Wikipedia when the mocking and abuse of real people is applauded so long as it is from the right people and is considered amusing by those with power and influence, just as those who carry out the toxic actions or applaud from the wings. But as it is clear from User:Deepfriedokra and User:Floquenbeam comments that criticism of your actions will not be tolerated and is considered a personal attack, I will not comment here again.Nigel Ish (talk) 16:04, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
Oh come on. The responsibility of an admin, in this situation, is to judge consensus, and act on it. You may certainly disagree with their judgement concerning consensus, but you can't expect them to be responsible for, or agree with, or defend that consensus. And for an admin to see a clear consensus to unblock and not do so because they disagree with the consensus, is for that admin to substitute their judgement for that of the community. Something we don't generally want. Paul August ☎ 16:38, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
Righteous unblock Bish. -Roxy the sycamore. wooF_
Glad to see this unblock, Bish. Not so much for EEng's sake, but for everyone's. I obviously think the block was incorrect, but was willing to defer to consensus if it had been in favor of keeping the block. But I think it was really important that there be no precedent established that an admin can demand an overwhelming consensus to overturn one of his blocks or else he'll go to ArbCom. In this case, we were lucky there was a consensus to unblock, and that claim could be challenged. If there had been no such consensus, I worry that HJ's rhetoric would have appeared to have been sustained, and next time another admin would try to make the same demand. I should have guessed you weren't afraid of ArbCom. (maybe relished the prospect? just a little? :)... ) --Floquenbeam (talk) 15:43, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

I'm willing to admit that HJ's threat gave me pause. But, of course, Bish has bigger cojones than me. Paul August ☎ 18:38, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

And just imagine how big Bishzilla's are! --Tryptofish (talk) 18:41, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Given that the broader context here is gender identity I think y'all better cool it. E Eng 02:44, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Bish has reversed two blocks on mine that required a large amount of chutzpah. I have no hard feelings or the slightest desire to run to the parents, but guts is not a trait Bish lack -- Guerillero ^{Parlez Moi} 18:46, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Two, Guerillero? [Thinks. To no avail.] I only remember the one a month ago... I typed the username at first, but perhaps we needn't actively encourage somebody less tolerant than you to start a list of "reasons to desysop Bishonen". Bishonen | tålk 20:50, 27 March 2021 (UTC).[reply]

		The Admin's Barnstar
		For making the hard decision with dignity and grace. --Deepfriedokra (talk) 17:41, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Thank you, young Fritter! Bishonen | tålk 20:50, 27 March 2021 (UTC).[reply]
- It’s her birthday (well, past midnight here, anyway), and what else can one do, but … —Sluzzelin talk 23:12, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]
The whole thing makes me think of Asterix village fights (with rotten fish as melee weapon). —Paleo Neonate – 01:50, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

@PaleoNeonate: Mon dieu. You've hit upon the perfect description of ANI. --Deepfriedokra (talk) 10:42, 29 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

References

^ Made-up word

Platinum Goddess

Hey Bishonen. I might have accidently copied your Platinum Goddess to my Sandbox and NL page. Slight Smile 19:33, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

That's fine, Slightsmile. I hope it made you smile. Could you give the creator MjolnirPants credit in the history, please? Bishonen | tålk 20:37, 27 March 2021 (UTC).[reply]

I want MPants back (yes, I'm aware I blocked him, but doesn't change that I want him back.) TonyBallioni (talk) 20:40, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

I did a quick look through MjolnirPants talk page. “We love you but you're outta here and please come back because we love you so much”. I'm not sure what you mean “give credit in the history” but if you show me I'll do it. Slight Smile 21:23, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

Just mention him in the edit summaries. I realize you have already added the goddess to those two pages and published edit summaries for the additions, but you could perhaps add dummy edits, so as to be able to say "btw the Platinum Goddess is the work of User:MjolnirPants" or similar in the new edit summaries? Bishonen | tålk 21:36, 27 March 2021 (UTC).[reply]

I miss him too, and I took the liberty of linking to here on his talk: [1]. Just so you all know. --Tryptofish (talk) 22:31, 27 March 2021 (UTC)[reply]

[1] Made-up word

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 *::::::<small>{{tq|Keiynan Lonsdale is a Nigerian-Australian actor, dancer, and singer-songwriter known for roles in The ''Divergent Series: Insurgent'' (2015), ''The Finest Hours'' (2016), and ''Love, Simon'' (2018). '''Tree''' has also worked as an MTV VJ, and released original music recordings.{{pb}}Lonsdale got his first acting job in 2007, with a bit dancing part in the film ''Razzle Dazzle: A Journey into Dance''. The following year, '''tree''' appeared in an episode of the Australian television medical drama ''All Saints''. '''Tree''' released a single on iTunes titled "One and Only" in 2014. '''Tree''' then played a supporting role as Uriah Pedrad in The Divergent Series: Insurgent (2015), the second film in the series. '''Tree''' briefly reprised the role in The Divergent Series: Allegiant (2016). In 2016, his single "Higher" was included on Connor Franta's curated album Common Culture, volume 5. '''Tree''' next appeared in the historical drama The Finest Hours (2016) as Eldon Hanon, the youngest sailor involved in a rescue at sea. In 2015, '''tree''' auditioned for the role of Jefferson Jackson but this role was given to Franz Drameh.{{pb}}'''Tree''' identifies as queer and prefers not to label '''treeself''' to a specific sexuality.}}</small>
 *:::::... I'll admit I went a ''teench'' overboard. But still it's the concept, not the concept-or. <small>all kidding aside</small> [[User:EEng#s|<b style="color:red;">E</b>]][[User talk:EEng#s|<b style="color:blue;">Eng</b>]] 14:34, 29 March 2021 (UTC)
-*::::::Yes, at least a "teench", but thanks for admitting at least that (a little more of that would go a long way). But it's the "overboard" thing that people will take notice of, not the other. [[User:Paul August|Paul August]] [[User_talk:Paul August|&#9742;]] 14:55, 29 March 2021 (UTC)
+*:::::::Yes, at least a "teench", but thanks for admitting at least that (a little more of that would go a long way). But it's the "overboard" thing that people will take notice of, not the other. [[User:Paul August|Paul August]] [[User_talk:Paul August|&#9742;]] 14:55, 29 March 2021 (UTC)
+*::::::::Well you must admit that {{tq|'''Tree''' identifies as queer and prefers not to label '''treeself''' to a specific sexuality}} qualifies as overboard as well, so my reaction can't be called entirely disproportionate. Being labeled transphobic didn't have much of a calming effect either. Ya know, if GW had simply said, "To be clear, you're criticizing the idea of using ''tree'' in the article, not your fellow editors, right?", I'm sure I would have said, "Well, I did let myself vent a bit there, and I know I need to keep in mind that not everyone understands why we can't incorporate an avant-garde wording like ''tree'' into an article", and that would have been the end of it. But no, she had to go all ex-arbitrator authoritarian on me.{{pb}}Remember that her original justification for removal was NOTFORUM, which was ''clearly'' inapplicable{{snd}}whether you like the form of expression or not, my post directly addressed the wording of the article. The later shifts in rationale (BPL? No? OK then, how about NPA?) make it clear that the starting point was a visceral dislike, and the reasoning was ginned up later. [[User:EEng#s|<b style="color:red;">E</b>]][[User talk:EEng#s|<b style="color:blue;">Eng</b>]] 15:39, 29 March 2021 (UTC)
 *::{{yo|Nigel Ish}} I realize you are angry, and that was a heated utterance. However, it's 1) a personal attack, and 2) quite unfounded. At no time did I say the block was wrong or that he should be unblocked. In fact, I said that his conduct is becoming increasingly inappropriate and that he needs to stop. Thanks, <small> sorry bish</small>1 --<b>[[User:Deepfriedokra|<span style="color:black">Deep</span><span style="color:red">fried</span><span style="color:DarkOrange">okra</span>]] [[User talk:Deepfriedokra|(<span style="color:black">talk</span>)]]</b> 15:27, 27 March 2021 (UTC)
 *::Hi, [[User:Nigel Ish|Nigel Ish]]. I  understand your point. But I assessed the consensus of the ANI discussion and found it to be obviously in favor of an unblock. When an admin finds an obvious consensus, I think their appropriate action is to implement that consensus. That's my position. [[User:Bishonen|Bishonen]] &#124; [[User talk:Bishonen|tålk]] 15:35, 27 March 2021 (UTC).