Gregory Hancock Hemingway
November 12, 1931
Kansas City, Missouri, U.S.
|Died||October 1, 2001 (aged 69)|
Key Biscayne, Florida, U.S.
|Resting place||Ketchum Cemetery|
Ketchum, Idaho, U.S.
|Other names||Gloria, Vanessa|
|Alma mater||University of Miami Medical School|
Shirley Jane Rhodes
(m. 1951; div. 1956)
(m. 1959; div. 1967)
(m. 1967; div. 1989)
Ida Mae Galliher
(m. 1992; div. 1995)
|Children||8, including Lorian and John|
|Years of service||1956|
Gregory Hancock Hemingway (November 12, 1931 – October 1, 2001), also known as Gloria Hemingway in later life, was the third and youngest child of author Ernest Hemingway.
A good athlete and a crack shot, Gregory longed to be a typical Hemingway hero and trained as a professional hunter in Africa. But his alcoholism prevented his gaining a license, as it also cost him his medical licence in America. Gregory maintained a long-running feud with his father, stemming from a 1951 incident when Gregory's drug-taking and unsuitable first marriage caused an argument between Ernest and Gregory's mother Pauline. She died from a stress-related condition the next day. His bestselling 1976 memoir of his father, Papa: A Personal Memoir, was seen by some to reflect troubles of his own. These included a habit of dressing in women's clothes, which he ascribed to gender dysphoria. A course of sex reassignment surgery from male to female was incomplete at the time of his death.
Born in Kansas City, Missouri, to novelist Ernest Hemingway and his second wife, Pauline Pfeiffer, he was in childhood called Gigi or Gig and was, according to a close observer, "a tremendous athlete" and a "crack shot." As an adult, he preferred the name Greg. Hemingway attended the Canterbury School, a Catholic prep school in Connecticut, graduating in 1949. He dropped out of St. John's College, Annapolis, after one year and worked for a time as an aircraft mechanic before moving to California in 1951.
Greg married against his father's wishes. Illegal drug-taking eventually led to his arrest. Pauline Pfeiffer died in October, 1951 the day after a phone call with Ernest in which the two parents argued about their son, who had recently married. According to Hemingway biographer Michael Reynolds the "conversation degenerated into accusations, blame-laying, vituperation, and general misunderstanding." Pauline died of hypertension but during the autopsy it was discovered she suffered from a rare tumor that "secretes abnormal amounts of adrenaline causing extremely high blood pressure." Ernest blamed his son for Pauline's death, and Greg was deeply disturbed by the accusation. It was years before Gregory and Ernest spoke with each other, and Gregory never saw his father alive again.
Gregory Hemingway retreated to Africa, where he drank alcohol and shot elephants. He spent the next three years in Africa as an apprentice professional hunter but failed to obtain a license because of his drinking. He joined the United States Army as a private in October 1956 and served for a brief period. He was stationed at Fort Bragg, North Carolina. He suffered from mental illness, was institutionalized for a time, and received several dozen treatments with electroconvulsive therapy. Of another period shooting elephants he wrote: "I went back to Africa to do more killing. Somehow it was therapeutic." It wasn't until nearly a decade later, in 1960, that he felt strong enough to resume his medical studies and respond to his father's charges. He wrote his father a bitter letter, detailing the medical facts of his mother's death and blaming Ernest for the tragedy. The next year, Ernest Hemingway killed himself, and again Greg wrestled with guilt over the death of a parent.
Relationship with Ernest Hemingway
Father and son were estranged for many years, beginning when Gregory was 19. As an attempt at reconciliation, Hemingway sent his father a telegram in October 1954 to congratulate him on being awarded the Nobel Prize and received $5,000 in return. They had intermittent contact thereafter.
Gregory wrote a short account of his father's life and their strained relationship, Papa: A Personal Memoir, that became a bestseller. When it appeared in 1976, Norman Mailer wrote in the preface, "There is nothing slavish here....For once, you can read a book about Hemingway and not have to decide whether you like him or not." The New York Times called it "a small miracle" and "artfully elliptical" in presenting "gloriously romantic adventures" with "a thin cutting edge of malice." Hemingway wrote of his own ambitions in the shadow of his father's fame: "What I really wanted to be was a Hemingway hero." Of his father he wrote: "The man I remembered was kind, gentle, elemental in his vastness, tormented beyond endurance, and although we always called him papa, it was out of love, not fear." He quoted his father as telling him: "You make your own luck, Gig" and "You know what makes a good loser? Practice." Time magazine criticized the author's "churlishness" and called his work "a bitter jumble of unsorted resentments and anguished love." His daughter Lorian responded to Papa with a letter to Time that said, "I would also like to know what type of person the author is...I haven't seen him for eight years...I think it sad that I learn more about him by reading articles and gossip columns than from my own communication with him."
According to his wife Valerie, Hemingway enjoyed his father's portrayal of him as Andrew in Islands in the Stream (1970) and later used the text as the epigraph to his memoir of his father. Valerie included this text as the epigraph to her own tribute to "Gregory H. Hemingway" written two years after his death:
The smallest boy was fair and was built like a pocket battle-ship. He was a Copy of Thomas Hudson, physically, reduced in scale and widened and shortened. His skin freckled when it tanned and he had a humorous face and was born being very old. He was a devil too, and deviled both his older brothers, and he had a dark side to him that nobody except Thomas Hudson could ever understand. Neither of them thought about this except that they recognized it in each other and knew it was bad and the man respected it and understood the boy's having it. They were very close to each other although Thomas Hudson had never been as much with this boy as with the others. This youngest boy, Andrew, was a precocious excellent athlete and he had been marvelous with horses since he had first ridden. The other boys were very proud of him but they did not want any nonsense from him, either. He was a little unbelievable and anyone could well have doubted his feats except that many people had seen him ride and watched him jump and seen his cold, professional modesty. He was a boy born to be quite wicked who was being very good and he carried his wickedness around with him transmuted into a sort of teasing gaiety. But he was a bad boy and the others knew it and he knew it. He was just being good while his badness grew inside him.
In the course of his first four marriages, Gregory Hemingway had eight children: Patrick, Edward, Sean, Brendan, Vanessa, Maria, John, and Lorian. One of his marriages, to Valerie Danby-Smith, Ernest Hemingway's secretary, lasted almost 20 years. Gregory's fourth marriage, to Ida Mae Galliher, ended in divorce in 1995 after three years, though they continued to live together and remarried in 1997.
He practiced medicine in the 1970s and 1980s, first in New York and then as a rural family doctor in Montana, first in Fort Benton and later as the medical officer for Garfield County, based in Jordan, Montana. Interviewed there, he said: "When I smell the sagebrush or see the mountains, or a vast clean stream, I love those things. Some of my happiest memories of childhood were associated with the West." In 1988, authorities in Montana declined to renew Hemingway's medical license because of his alcoholism. Hemingway battled bipolar disorder, alcoholism, and drug abuse for many years.
Hemingway and his brothers tried to protect their father's name and their inheritance by taking legal action to stop the popular local celebrations called "Hemingway Days" in Key West, Florida. In 1999, they collaborated in creating a business venture, Hemingway Ltd., to market the family name as "an up-scale lifestyle accessory brand". Their first venture created controversy by putting the Hemingway name on a line of shotguns.
All his life Greg fought a losing battle against this crippling illness. He lacked critical early help because his parents were unable or unwilling to accept his condition nor could he come to terms with it himself for a long time, taking up the study of medicine in the hope that he would find a cure, or at least a solace. Failing that, he developed an alternate persona, a character into which he could retreat from the unbearable responsibilities of being, among other things, his father's son, and of never ever measuring up to what was expected of him, or to what he expected of himself.
Hemingway considered sex reassignment surgery as early as 1973. He had the surgery in 1995 and began using the name Gloria on occasion. Despite the surgery, Hemingway, presenting as a man, remarried Galliher in 1997 in Washington state.
Hemingway's public persona remained male. As Gregory, he gave interviews about his father as late as 1999. In July of that year he attended events marking the centenary of Ernest Hemingway's birth in Oak Park, Illinois. He also spoke at the dedication of the Hemingway-Pfeiffer Museum in his mother's family home in Piggott, Arkansas, when it opened on July 4, 1999.
Hemingway's transition from male to female was a long process left incomplete at his death. He had breast implant surgery on one breast and then had it reversed. He was sometimes seen in women's attire; yet, dressed as a man, he frequented a local tavern and presented as what a patron called "just one of the guys." When he was arrested just days before his death, he first gave the police the name Greg Hemingway, then changed it to Gloria.
Hemingway died October 1, 2001, of hypertension and cardiovascular disease in Miami-Dade Women's Detention Center. That day, Hemingway was due in court to answer charges of indecent exposure and resisting arrest without violence. Hemingway had been living in Florida for more than ten years.
In most obituaries, he was called Gregory, but Time magazine published a brief notice of the death of "Gloria Hemingway, 69, transsexual youngest son turned daughter of novelist Ernest Hemingway" and noted the novelist once said Gregory had "the biggest dark side in the family except me." The gravestone reads: "Dr. Gregory Hancock Hemingway 1931–2001". He is buried next to his father and half-brother Jack in the Ketchum, Idaho cemetery.
Hemingway left two wills. One will left most of the $7 million estate to Galliher. The other left most of it to Hemingway's children. The children challenged the will that named Galliher as heir, claiming that Galliher was not legally Hemingway's widow since Hemingway's home state of Florida did not recognize same-sex marriages. The parties eventually reached an undisclosed settlement.
Daughter Lorian Hemingway wrote about her father in the 1999 book Walk on Water: A Memoir. Son Edward, an artist, has written and illustrated the children's books Bump in the Night, and "Bad Apple". Son John wrote the critically acclaimed memoir Strange Tribe: A Family Memoir. Son Patrick is a professional photographer based in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. Son Seán is the curator of Greek and Roman Art at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York City.
- The New York Times: Joshua Robinson, "Memories of Playing on Papa Hemingway’s Ball Field ," October 6, 2008, accessed June 27, 2011. Valerie Danby-Smith published a memoir, Running with the Bulls: My Years with the Hemingways, in 2008 under the name Valerie Hemingway.
- Valerie Hemingway, pages 119, 167
- Valerie Hemingway, page 214
- Lou Mandler, "The Hemingways at Canterbury," The Hemingway Review, March 22, 2010
- Daily Telegraph: "Gregory Hemingway," October 5, 2001, accessed July 1, 2011
- The Independent: "Gregory Hemingway," October 10, 2001, accessed February 8, 2015.
- Reynolds, Michael. (1999). Hemingway: The Final Years. New York: Norton. ISBN 978-0-393-32047-3 page 242
- The New York Times: Thomas J. Lueck, "Gregory H. Hemingway, 69; Wrote a Memoir Called 'Papa'," October 5, 2001, accessed June 27, 2011
- Hemingway was in medical school at the time of his father's death in 1961. The New York Times: "Hemingway Dead of Shotgun Wound," July 3, 1961, accessed June 27, 2011
- Chicago Tribune: Nara Schoenberg, "The Son Also Falls," November 19, 2001, accessed June 27, 2011
- Gregory H. Hemingway, Papa: A Personal Memoir (Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1976)
- The New York Times: Christopher Lehmann-Haupt, "The Old Man and His Son," June 16, 1976, accessed June 27, 2011
- Gregory H. Hemingway, Papa, 119. Collections of Ernest Hemingway's quotations often combine the two statements into one.
- TIME: "Books: Notable," July 26, 1976, accessed June 27, 2011
- TIME: "Forum," August 30, 1976, accessed June 27, 2011
- Valerie Hemingway, "A tribute to Gregory H. Hemingway," The Hemingway Review, volume 22, 2003, available online, accessed June 30, 2011
- Valerie Hemingway, Running with the Bulls: My Years with the Hemingways (New York: Random House, 2004), page 6-7
- Valerie Hemningway, page 229
- Reuters: Angus MacSwan, "Gregory Hemingway, Son of Writer, Dies in Miami," October 5, 2001, accessed June 27, 2011
- BBC News. 3 October 2003. "Hemingway legacy feud 'resolved'". Accessed 27 May 2007.
- Gray, Paul (5 July 1999). "Where's Papa". Time Magazine. 154 (1). Archived from the original on January 13, 2005. Retrieved 2021-04-10.
- Valerie Hemingway, "Running with the Bulls," 2005.
- Valerie Hemingway, page 235; Mark Spilka, Renewing the Normative D.H. Lawrence: A Personal Progress (University of Missouri Press, 1992), 210n14
- Valerie Hemingway, pages 261-2, 265
- Washington Post: Jonathan Yardley, "A Writer's Companion," November 11, 2004, accessed May 27, 2007
- Miami Herald: Carol Rabin Miller, "Gender of Hemingway's son at center of feud," September 22, 2003, accessed June 27, 2011
- The New York Times: D.T. Max, "Ernest Hemingway's War Wounds," July 18, 1999, accessed June 27, 2011
- New York Times: Pam Belluck, "Hemingway Hometown Celebrates a Centennial," July 4, 1999, accessed June 27, 2011
- Daily Dunklin Democrat: "Hemingway-Pfeiffer Museum," July 23, 2009, accessed June 27, 2011
- TIME: "Milestones," October 15, 2001, accessed June 27, 2011
- Gumbel, Andrew. Transsexual Son Haunts Hemingway Clan The Independent. 28 September 2003. Retrieved 2010–02–23
- New York Times: Carol Peace Robins, "Books," May 17, 1998, accessed June 27, 2011
- School Library Journal: "Review of the Day: Bump in the Night by Edward Hemingway," August 23, 2009, accessed June 27, 2011
- Carl Eby, "Review of Strange Tribe: A Family Memoir," in Hemingway Review, 2007
- Hendrickson, Paul."Papa's Boys" Washington Post, July 29, 1987. Retrieved May 11, 2021
- Meyers, Jeffrey. "Gregory Hemingway: Transgender Tragedy." American Imago, volume 77 number 2, 2020, p. 395-417. Project MUSE, doi:10.1353/aim.2020.0018
- Schoenberg, N. (2001, October 26). "The old man and the she". The Chicago Tribune.
- "Gregory Hemingway Dies; Writer's Child Battled Depression: [FINAL Edition]." The Washington Post, October 05, 2001, pages B07. ProQuest 409237954
|Wikimedia Commons has media related to Gregory Hemingway.|