The birds and the bees
"The Birds and the Bees" is an English-language idiomatic expression and euphemism that refers to courtship and sexual intercourse. The "Birds and the Bees talk" (sometimes known simply as "The Talk") is generally the event in most children's lives in which the parents explain what sexual relationships are.
According to tradition, the birds and the bees is a metaphorical story sometimes told to children in an attempt to explain the mechanics and good consequences of sexual intercourse through reference to easily observed natural events. For instance, bees carry and deposit pollen into flowers, a visible and easy-to-explain parallel to male fertilisation. Another example, birds lay eggs, a similarly visible and easy-to-explain parallel to female ovulation.
Word sleuths William and Mary Morris hint that it may have been inspired by words like these from the poet Samuel Coleridge (1825): 'All nature seems at work ... The bees are stirring—birds are on the wing ... and I the while, the sole unbusy thing, not honey make, nor pair, nor build, nor sing.'"
Even earlier instances of this idiomatic expression appear in the Cavalier poet, Thomas Carew's work, "The Spring" (c.1640), in which, Carew uses earth and its change of seasons as a metaphorical depiction of women and their sensuality (The Norton Anthology of English Literature 1696). To abet his ends, Carew alludes to the "birds and the bees" in lines 7-8 with the use of "swallow", "cuckoo", and "humble-bee" as seen here (lines included are 5-8): "But the warm sun thaws the benumbed earth/And makes it tender; gives a sacred birth/To the dead swallow; wakes in hollow tree/The drowsy cuckoo and the humble-bee/Now do a choir of chirping minstrels bring" (emphasis added; lines 5-9 from "The Spring").
Dr. Emma Frances Angell Drake (b. 1849) wrote a section of a publication called The Story of Life which was published in 1909. This piece was later picked up and included in Safe Counsel, a product of the Eugenics movement in the late 19th and early 20th century. The author tells her daughters "when you discovered the tiny blue eggs in the robin's nest and I told you that wrapped in each shell was a baby robin that was growing there, kept warm by the mamma bird..." the narrative continues on in vague terms without actually describing sexual intercourse. Later she describes the father's role in reproduction like this; "Sometimes it is the wind which blows the pollen dust from one plant to the other, and sometimes it is the bees gathering honey from the flowers. As they suck the honey from the blossoms some of the plant dust sticks to their legs and bodies, and as they go to another plant in search of sweets this is rubbed off and so the parts of the father and mother plant get together and the seed is made fertile." Safe counsel was reprinted at least 40 times from 1893 through 1930 and may have been widely enough repeated to have contributed to the euphemism, "the birds and the bees."
Several sources give credit to Cole Porter for coining the phrase. One of the musician's more famous songs was "Let's Do It, Let's Fall in Love." In Porter's publication from 1928, the opening line for the chorus carried derogatory racial references like "Chinks" and "Japs", later changed following CBS recommendation and NBC adaptation:
And that's why birds do it, bees do it
Even educated fleas do it
Let's do it, let's fall in love
Usages and popular culture
- John Burroughs, a naturalist who lived and worked in the Catskill Mountains, wrote a small pamphlet called "Birds and Bees: Essays" in which he explained the workings of nature in a way that children could understand.
- In the American hidden-camera comedy show Impractical Jokers,the 4 guys frequently make use of the verse.
- Robie Harris has written children's works such as It's Not the Stork!, It's Perfectly Normal, and It's So Amazing, which have been the center of controversy and book challenges in the United States.
- In the song "It Must Be Love", originally recorded in 1971 by Labi Siffre, then also recorded by ska/pop band Madness in 1981. The line goes "Bless you and bless me, Bless the bees, And the birds".
- In 1968 The Monkees released an album called The Birds, The Bees & The Monkees.
- In the Placebo song "Meds", Brian Molko sings "I was confused by the birds and the bees".
- In the Eminem song "I'm Shady" the line goes "I like birds, bees, I like people".
- American indie pop musical duo from Los Angeles - The Bird and the Bee.
- Many songs feature an extended version of this phrase; "the birds and the bees and the flowers and the trees".
- The song "Hummingbird Heartbeat" by Katy Perry also states "this is the story of the birds and the bees", referring to sexual intercourse.
- The American classic song "Let's Fall in Love" contains the suggestive lyric, "Birds do it. Bees do it."
- In the Full House episode "Kissing Cousins", Rebecca tells Stavros he taught Jesse about the "Birds and the Bees"
- The song "Sowing the Seeds of Love" by Tears for Fears has this phrase among the lyrics.
- The Little Mix song "Nothing Else Matters" from Glory Days contains the lyrics "only the birds and the bees know that we go, a little bit high, little bit low".
- One of the Simpsons episodes is titled "The Burns and the Bees".
- In the episode 4 of the 8th season of How I Met Your Mother titled as "Who Wants to Be a Godparent?", Barney, Robin and Ted had to explain how they would tell the story to Marvin, Marshall and Lily's son, while the're playing a game wheel
- In the Everybody Loves Raymond episode, "Marie's Sculpture", Marie Barone makes a very suggestive scultpture. When the Barones get a phone call about a canceled playdate, Debra states that they can't have the playdate at their house as "they don't want all the neighborhood kids coming here, and learning about the birds and the gigantic bees."
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