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From this perspective, the Kama Sutra can be considered as one of the first written resources dealing with sadomasochistic activities and safety rules. Further texts with sadomasochistic connotation appear worldwide during the following centuries on a regular basis

}} Rajesh000134679 (talk) 03:42, 24 June 2020 (UTC)[reply]

It is not of sadomasochism but for control eroticism ,affection and intimacy. Rajesh000134679 (talk) 03:46, 24 June 2020 (UTC)[reply]

From this perspective, the Kama Sutra can be considered as one of the first written resources dealing with sadomasochistic activities and safety rules. Further texts with sadomasochistic connotation appear worldwide during the following centuries on a regular basis

This paragraph from bdsm history need to be edit that written sadomasochistic activities or passive masochism are describing in kamsutra but really they are described as for control eroticism,affection,intimacy. You can read kamsutra pdf and understand. Rajesh000134679 (talk) 03:51, 24 June 2020 (UTC)[reply]

From this perspective, the Kama Sutra can be considered as one of the first written resources dealing with hitting and biting for control eroticism affection and intimacy. Rajesh000134679 (talk) 04:01, 24 June 2020 (UTC)[reply]

Not done: it's not clear what changes you want to be made. Please mention the specific changes in a "change X to Y" format and provide a reliable source if appropriate. This is just gibberish. You need to show sources to back up your unclear motive. I have also removed the duplicate requests you made. Curved Space (talk) 10:00, 24 June 2020 (UTC)[reply]

Remove link to Aus Leiden Freuden. Masochismus und Gesellschaft. ("Masochism in Modern Man"?)

Should I be cleaning up broken links? This book doesn't even have an article in German Wikipedia. — Preceding unsigned comment added by Vagabond219 (talk • contribs) 01:04, 7 January 2021 (UTC)[reply]

"Top and bottom in sex and BDSM" listed at Redirects for discussion

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Remove the paragraphs:

It is necessary to be able to identify each person's psychological "squicks" or triggers in advance to avoid them. Such losses of emotional balance due to sensory or emotional overload are a fairly commonly discussed issue. It is important to follow participants' reactions empathetically and continue or stop accordingly. For some players, sparking "freakouts" or deliberately using triggers may be the desired outcome. Safewords are one way for BDSM practices to protect both parties. However, partners should be aware of each other's psychological states and behaviors to prevent instances where the "freakouts" prevent the use of safewords.

After any BDSM activities, it is important that the participants go through sexual aftercare, to process and calm down from the activity. After the sessions, participants can need aftercare because their bodies have experienced trauma and they need to mentally come out of the role play.

Wikipedia does not give advice. 217.42.40.30 (talk) 21:05, 3 May 2022 (UTC)[reply]

So, then, the last two paragraphs of the safety section. They're not encyclopedic, I agree. But they're BDSM characteristics and issues, and they're sourced. It looks like they just need fixing up. Enlightenedstranger0 (talk) 00:01, 4 May 2022 (UTC)[reply]

And better sources. But if anyone else wants it gone, I won't object. Such information can always be added back appropriately. Enlightenedstranger0 (talk) 00:04, 4 May 2022 (UTC)[reply]

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The following Wikimedia Commons file used on this page or its Wikidata item has been nominated for deletion:

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Participate in the deletion discussion at the nomination page. —Community Tech bot (talk) 15:07, 25 January 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Madonna - Erotica / Sex

The Section under music refers only to songs released post 2010, whereas Madonna released the ground-breaking S&M-themed song 'Erotica' in 1992. The video contains nudity, Madonna dressed as a dominatrix and S&M imagery. While the lyrics refer to S&M, pain as pleasure, infantilism and the female as the dominant partner. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotica_(song) As well as this, she released the photograph book 'Sex' which is full of imagery of S&M & domination (female on female, female on male, male on female). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_(book) This was incredibly shocking in 1992, by the time Rihanna and Aguilera released their S&M-themed songs, the subject was already somewhat tame. Please give Madonna the credit she deserves for bringing the topic to the mainstream. 2A02:8309:2183:7800:BDFA:D66C:2D23:B424 (talk) 07:04, 19 March 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Madonna - Hanky Panky / Human Nature

Furthermore, Madonna's 1990 single "Hanky Panky" is all about BDSM, with lyrics about spanking, bondage, domination. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hanky_Panky_(Madonna_song) The video for her 1995 single "Human Nature" also contained BDSM elements, with Madonna dressed in a rubber bodysuit, chained to a chair and also dominating bound male and female dancers and wielding a riding crop. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_Nature_(Madonna_song) 86.49.231.136 (talk) 09:45, 19 March 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Edit Request: "Addiction" section on masochism is absurd and offensive. Remove it.

The section on sadomasochism that describes it as an addiction was added by someone with an axe to grind and no sources to back them up. One citation suffers from every imaginable bias (a "phenomenological study" of 9 criminals in prison is hardly a scientific endeavor), and the other isn't even relevant (it's about gambling, and the supposed link is not apparent in the data). 50.47.99.220 (talk) 15:48, 24 June 2023 (UTC)[reply]

The latter statement (correlating gambling) feels like OR/conclusion of the reader, so that has been removed. The study, I'm unsure about -- I've heard others speak of the addictive quality, so it's not entirely untrue, but I'll let someone else weigh in on the validity here. HalJor (talk) 21:40, 25 June 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Wow! Just some full-frontal nudity on this page huh.

Just a full set of titties and a vulva right on here. Stopchewingyourcuticles (talk) 10:59, 29 November 2023 (UTC)[reply]