Fag stag

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Fag stag and fruit fly are slang terms for a heterosexual man who either enjoys, prefers the company of (or simply has numerous friends who are), gay or bisexual.

The latter term comes from the derogatory term for homosexuals (fruit).[1][2]

The term, which originated in the United States in the 1990s,[1][3] is the male equivalent of the more common slang - fag hag,[4] a term which is part of hag-ism; the identification of a person with a group—usually united in terms of sexuality, gender identity, or shared sex—of which he or she is not a member.[5]

The term can be used as a pejorative or as a term of endearment within LGBT communities.[6][7][8]


The colloquialism is used, albeit rarely, primarily within the LGBT communities.[9][10]

Mainstream shows, such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Queer as Folk, Will & Grace and others, often explore the mainstreaming of friendships where differing sexualities play a complement rather than impediment to friendships and social situations.[4][dead link][11][12]

In addition, homophobia has become less prevalent, and efforts to confront violence and hostility towards sexual and gender minorities, such as gay-straight alliance has helped lift some of the stigma attached to having LGBT people as close friends.[4][dead link][11]

A 2002 episode of the MTV series Undressed was titled Fag Stag, and centered around a gay wedding.[13][14]

When Radar magazine debuted, its founder and editor-in-chief, Maer Roshan, called competitor Details' editor-in-chief Dan Peres, a "professional fag stag,"[15] stating, "Let's get one thing straight, Peres is not gay. But, his magazine sure seems to be."[15]

An alternate use of the term fag stag, is a male gay icon celebrity, who is thenselves either straight or gay, and is loved by the gay community, and has "gay buddies," such as: Kevin Smith, Ben Affleck, Eric McCormack, Justin Timberlake, Colin Farrell, Matthew Broderick, Robbie Williams, Ben Cohen, Darren Criss, or Daniel Radcliffe.[4][dead link][12][15]

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  2. ^ Peckham, Aaron (2007). Mo' Urban Dictionary: Ridonkulous Street Slang Defined. Andrews McMeel Publishing. p. 100. ISBN 0-7407-6875-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  3. ^ Reuter, Donald F. (2006). Gay-2-zee: A Dictionary of Sex, Subtext, and the Sublime. Macmillan. p. 198. ISBN 0-312-35427-4. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  4. ^ a b c d "The Single Guy", Jorge (29 June 2006). "Single in the City: Fag Stag". Generation Q Media. Retrieved 2008-07-23. [dead link]
  5. ^ Baker, Paul (2004). Fantabulosa: A Dictionary of Polari and Gay Slang. Continuum International Publishing Group. p. 140. ISBN 0-8264-7343-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  6. ^ Self, Will (2004). Dorian: An Imitation. Grove Press. p. 85. ISBN 0-8264-7343-1. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  7. ^ Adams, Kylie (2005). Ex-girlfriends. Kensington Books. p. 204. ISBN 0-7582-1073-6. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  8. ^ Ordona, Robert (2008). "State of Gay Unions: The "Fag Stag"". Planet Out Inc. Retrieved 2008-07-23. [dead link]
  9. ^ Cohen, Mo (2006). "Deconstructing Fag Hags". Rearguard Monthly Alternative. Retrieved 2008-07-23. [dead link]
  10. ^ David, Marianne (3 June 2007). "Beyond the Flamboyant Façade, The Flip Side". The Nation. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  11. ^ a b Sohn, Amy (13 October 2003). "Mano a Mano: Much has been made about how a "Queer Eye" can benefit a straight guy. But there is no shortage of gay men who would welcome a little straightening out.". New York Magazine. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  12. ^ a b Heinrich, Karen (22 May 2003). "The Great Gender Bender: Heterosexual men no longer feel the need to keep their gay friends in the closet.". The Age. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 
  13. ^ ""Undressed": Girls Interrupted (2002)". IMDb.com, Inc. 2008. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  14. ^ "Plot summary for "Undressed"". IMDb.com, Inc. 2008. Retrieved 2008-07-23. 
  15. ^ a b c Romenesko, Jim (11 April 2003). "Radar's Roshan says Details is an awfully gay magazine". New York Post. Retrieved 2008-07-24. 


  • Flynn, Paul (September 2007). "Does Your Gay Friend Fancy You?". Arena. pp. 128–131.