Fag stag and fruit fly are slang terms for a heterosexual man who either enjoys the company of, or simply has numerous friends who are, gay or bisexual men. The latter term comes from the derogatory term for homosexuals (fruit). The term, which originated in the United States in the 1990s, is a male equivalent of the more common fag hag, a term which is part of hag-ism, the identification of a person with a group—usually united in terms of sexuality, gender identity, or shared sex—of which he or she is not officially a member. The term can be used as a pejorative or as a term of endearment within LGBT communities.
The phrase is beginning to be used more often as gay, bisexual, lesbian and transgendered sexuality becomes more readily accepted, and the phrase has gained international use as well. Mainstream shows such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Queer as Folk, Will & Grace and others explore the mainstreaming of friendships where differing sexualities play a complement rather than impediment to friendships and social situations.[dead link] Additionally, homophobia is less prevalent and efforts to confront violence and hostility towards sexual and gender minorities such as gay-straight alliance have lifted some of the stigma of having LGBT people as close friends.[dead link] "Fag Stag" was the name of a 2002 episode of the MTV series Undressed which centered around a gay wedding. When Radar magazine debuted, its founder and editor-in-chief, Maer Roshan, called competitor Details' editor-in-chief Dan Peres, a "professional fag stag," stating, "Let's get one thing straight, Peres is not gay. But his magazine sure seems to be."
Finally, a fag stag can also mean a male gay icon—a celebrity that is loved by the gay community who has "gay buddies" such as Kevin Smith, Ben Affleck, Eric McCormack, Justin Timberlake, Colin Farrell, Matthew Broderick, Robbie Williams, Ben Cohen, Darren Criss, or Daniel Radcliffe.[dead link]
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