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Next comes the cutting of the cake. As is done elsewhere in the world, the bride and groom cut the cake, which is several layers high. The bride then tosses her bouquet behind her back to other hopeful women. By tradition, whomever catches the bouquet is seen as lucky, because she is foretold to be the next to marry. Next, the couple opens the buffet for the guests, which is usually a wide variety of salads, meats, stews, sweets, fruits, and other [[Arab cuisine]] dishes. Food is considered one of the factors that reflect the wealth of the families of the bride and groom. After the guests have eaten, the wedding party is over. In some weddings, there may be more entertainment. The bride and groom then usually receive a complimentary stay of a night or two at the hotel where the wedding was held. |
Next comes the cutting of the cake. As is done elsewhere in the world, the bride and groom cut the cake, which is several layers high. The bride then tosses her bouquet behind her back to other hopeful women. By tradition, whomever catches the bouquet is seen as lucky, because she is foretold to be the next to marry. Next, the couple opens the buffet for the guests, which is usually a wide variety of salads, meats, stews, sweets, fruits, and other [[Arab cuisine]] dishes. Food is considered one of the factors that reflect the wealth of the families of the bride and groom. After the guests have eaten, the wedding party is over. In some weddings, there may be more entertainment. The bride and groom then usually receive a complimentary stay of a night or two at the hotel where the wedding was held. |
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In a strict Muslim wedding, men may not dance with women or even watch women in unmodest dresses. So only the female guests and children enter the hall together with the wedding couple. Also fotographers and other personnel must be women, the DJ has to operate behind a closed door. Men wait outside in a separte room or garden. In Palestine only a piece of cake and non-alcoholic beverages are offered to both groups, but no meal. At the end of the party women cover their shoulders and male family members may enter the hall. Family by family visit the couple to offer cangratulation and money presents. At the end they may dance together. |
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Revision as of 09:50, 28 July 2011
Arab weddings (Arabic: فرح, زفاف, or عرس) have changed greatly in the past 100 years. Traditional Arab weddings were very similar to modern-day Bedouin weddings and rural weddings, and they were unique from one region to another, even within the same country. Meanwhile, Christian Arabs have weddings that are very similar to those of their Western counterparts.
The marriage process usually starts with meetings between the couple's families, and ends with the wedding's consummation (leilat al-dokhla). For a wedding to be considered Islamic, the bride and groom must both consent, and the groom is welcomed into the bride's house—although only in the presence of her parents to maintain purity between both sides.
Arranged Marriages
Arranged marriages are very common in the Arab world, since the traditions of Arab society and Islam forbid couples to enter romantic relationships before marriage. Therefore, when it is time for a young man to get married, his family will look around to identify a number of potential brides.[1]
The process of investigation takes into consideration the girls' physical beauty, her behaviour, her cleanliness, her conduct in front of elders, her education, her religious education(whether or not she has completed the memorization of the Quran), and finally her qualities as a housewife. [2] In carrying out this traditional investigation parents also take the behaviour of the prospective bride's family into account.
The first meeting usually takes place between the bride, groom, and their respective mothers. They meet, usually in a public place or in the bride's house, and get to know each other. The bride, groom, and their chaperones will typically sit separately, but within sight of each other, in order to get to know each other. Nowadays, the man might suggest to his family who he would like them to consider, and it may be that the man and the woman already know each other.
Reading of the Fatiha (Engagement celebration)
The bride's family hosts a reception in their home, where the groom formally asks for the bride's hand in marriage from her father or the eldest man in the family. After the father agrees, the families read the Fatiha (the first sura in the Quran) and drink sharbat, a sweet cordial prepared from flowers or fruit.
Engagement
Engagements (Arabic: خطوبة) in the Arab world are usually much like wedding parties, with the difference that the bride wears any dress she pleases. Usually, the bride and groom dress in matching colors. They exchange rings, putting the rings on each other's right-hand ring finger.
Katb el-Kitab/Marriage Contract
Katb el-Kitab is the official marriage ceremony, held in a mosque. It starts with a sheikh or imam giving a short speech about how the Prophet honored his wives, how to honor women, and how women should treat their husbands and honor them. Then the imam tells the groom to heed the speech that was just given, and the father (or eldest male of the bride's family) accepts the proposal. The ceremony resembles the reading of the Fatiha, but it is considered a more official ceremony in front of God. Two witnesses, usually the eldest men in each family, sign their names to the marriage contract, and the couple is now officially married.
Henna night
The henna night is very similar to a bachelorette party; the bride's female friends and relatives join her at a house party including food, drinks, and a lot of dancing. A women's group plays Arabic music, sometimes Islamic music, while everyone dances. A woman draws Mehndi, a temporary form of skin decoration using henna, on the bride and guests' skin —usually the palms and feet, where the henna color will be darkest because the skin contains higher levels of keratin there, which binds temporarily to lawsone, the colorant of henna.
Sahra
In some areas (e. g. Palestine) also the male friends and relatives celebrate an evening party (sahra in Arabic سهرة) in the garden or on the street infront of the groom's house. Music and dance groups perform and the men dance with the groom. Women are not allowed and may view the program via video projection inside the house or the closed off garden. In strict islamic families this is the only way to allow males from outside the family to attend the wedding.
Wedding reception/party
Weddings usually include a zaffa, a procession that loudly announces the couple's wedding. The zaffa differs from region to region. In Egypt, for example, the Dumiyati zaffa is popular in the north. In the Levant, the traditional dabkeh is popular. Other versions of the zaffa can be found in North Africa and the Arabian peninsula; the zaffa even reached Malaysia with the first Arab traders, called the Zapin.[citation needed]
Urban weddings
After the zaffa, the bride and the groom sit on a dais, or kosha (Arabic: كوشة), which usually consists of two comfortable seats in front of the guests, from which the bride and groom reign as though king and queen. As soon as the bride and groom are seated in the kosha, a sharbat drink is passed to the guests, and all drink to their health.
The bride and groom then switch rings from their right hand to the left index. This is probably an old Christian tradition,[citation needed] but it is done whether the couple is Muslim or Christian. With this ritual, the festivities begin. The bride and groom have the first dance, after which the other wedding guests join in. Usually a belly dancer or a singer entertains the guests, but more luxurious weddings will have more than one entertainer. Guests will dance and sing with the newlywed couple, and the groom will sometimes be tossed in the air by friends. In modern weddings, after the formal entertainment, a disc jockey will extend the festivities.
Next comes the cutting of the cake. As is done elsewhere in the world, the bride and groom cut the cake, which is several layers high. The bride then tosses her bouquet behind her back to other hopeful women. By tradition, whomever catches the bouquet is seen as lucky, because she is foretold to be the next to marry. Next, the couple opens the buffet for the guests, which is usually a wide variety of salads, meats, stews, sweets, fruits, and other Arab cuisine dishes. Food is considered one of the factors that reflect the wealth of the families of the bride and groom. After the guests have eaten, the wedding party is over. In some weddings, there may be more entertainment. The bride and groom then usually receive a complimentary stay of a night or two at the hotel where the wedding was held.
In a strict Muslim wedding, men may not dance with women or even watch women in unmodest dresses. So only the female guests and children enter the hall together with the wedding couple. Also fotographers and other personnel must be women, the DJ has to operate behind a closed door. Men wait outside in a separte room or garden. In Palestine only a piece of cake and non-alcoholic beverages are offered to both groups, but no meal. At the end of the party women cover their shoulders and male family members may enter the hall. Family by family visit the couple to offer cangratulation and money presents. At the end they may dance together.
Rural weddings
Modern urban weddings are influenced by Western traditions—for example, the cutting of the cake and tossing of the bouquet. This is not the case with rural areas. In rural areas of countries like Egypt, after the zaffa, the wedding ceremony will usually take place in a big clearing, where a huge Arabic tent called a sewan (Arabic: صوان) has been set up. The entertainment includes a belly dancer or singer, sometimes both. Drinks are passed to guests, and food is served on huge plates. The customary food is fattah, pieces of lamb meat embedded in rice and bread dipped in stew. The bride and groom will leave the wedding early, but the guests continue the festivities.
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