Stone femme

Stone femme is a lesbian identity whose name was patterned after the more widely known term stone butch. Identification with the term is not necessarily dependent upon the stone femme's physical appearance or gender expression, or upon the identity of the stone femme's partner.

Meanings

Stone femme can have many different meanings:

• ultimately stone sexuality has more to do with boundaries in sexual encounters about giving or receiving sexual touch
• a femme who is the bottom in sexual interactions
• a femme who is attracted to or partnered with butches; who does not wish to sexually touch their partners' genitals
• a femme who is sexually stone and therefore does not wish to be touched in the genital area; often sexually top in sexual interactions.
• a "high femme" who identifies as very feminine and interacts with her butch lovers in ways that honor their masculinity

Relationship to sexual and gender identity

Some people use the term 'stone femme' to describe their identity in regards to their sexual identity or gender identity, their boundaries regarding the expression of either, or their sexual boundaries. Some stone femmes identify as queer, as dykes, and/or as lesbians. Others do not identify as lesbians due to the disconnect between the political and sexual connotations of the word and the reality of their personal experiences.

See also

• Butch and femme
• Gender role
• Lipstick lesbian
• Stone butch