She is also a keen bridge player. She has been bridge columnist for The Spectator since 2000 and has played for England in home international competition for the Lady Milne Trophy. That is the annual tournament for women teams, parallel in structure to the Camrose Trophy competition for open teams.
The daughter of literary critic and writer John Gross and of literary editor Miriam Gross, she is married to the novelist and critic John Preston (Sunday Telegraph TV critic as of 2006). Her brother Tom Gross is a journalist and international affairs commentator, specialising in the Middle East.