Relationship anarchy

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Relationship anarchy (sometimes abbreviated RA) is the application of anarchist principles to intimate relationships. Its values include autonomy, anti-hierarchical practices, lack of state control, anti-normativity, and community interdependence.[1][2][3] RA is explicitly anti-amatonormative[4] and anti-mononormative and is commonly, but not always, non-monogamous.[3][5][6] This is distinct from polyamory, solo poly, swinging, and other forms of “dating”, which may include structures such as amatonormativity, hierarchy of intimate relationships, and autonomy-limiting rules.[2][5][7] It has also been interpreted as a new paradigm in which closeness and autonomy are no longer considered dilemmas within a relationship.[8]


Andie Nordgren popularized the term "relationship anarchy"[2][3][6] in her 2012 Tumblr essay "The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy"[9] that she translated from her own Swedish-language "Relationsanarki i 8 punkter" (lit. Relationship anarchy in 8 points).[10] Other relevant writings exploring this topic within a similar time frame include "A Green Anarchist Project on Freedom" and "Love and Against the Couple Form".[11]

Workshops at OpenCon 2010 discussed relationship anarchy,[12] and the Open University professor Dr. Meg Barker discussed it in a 2013 presentation.[13] In the International Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conferences, since 2016, different aspects of relationship anarchy have been studied.[14][15] In March 2020, the first book dedicated monographically to RA was published, so far only in Spanish: "Anarquía Relacional. La revolución desde los vínculos".[16]

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  1. ^ "The Difference Between Relationship Anarchy and Non-Hierarchical Polyamory". Relationship Anarchy. Archived from the original on 2020-05-03. Retrieved 2020-05-07.
  2. ^ a b c "The Great Showdown of Hierarchical Polyamory vs. Relationship Anarchy". The New Modality. 2020-09-05. Retrieved 2022-02-14.
  3. ^ a b c "Can relationship anarchy create a world without heartbreak? | Aeon Ideas". Aeon. Retrieved 2022-02-14.
  4. ^ "Are You Radical Enough to Be a Relationship Anarchist?". GQ. 2018-05-09. Retrieved 2022-02-14.
  5. ^ a b Lopez, Veronica (2021-10-15). "Here's What to Know About Relationship Anarchy". Cosmopolitan. Retrieved 2022-02-13.
  6. ^ a b Heaney, Katie (2018-10-23). "What It's Like Being a Relationship Anarchist". The Cut. Retrieved 2022-02-14.
  7. ^ De las Heras Gómez, Roma (2018-12-20). "Thinking Relationship Anarchy from a Queer Feminist Approach". Sociological Research Online. SAGE Publications. 24 (4): 644–660. doi:10.1177/1360780418811965. ISSN 1360-7804. S2CID 220124663.
  8. ^ Guillén, Ricardo. "Beyond romantic love – an analysis of how the dilemma of closeness vs. autonomy is handled in relationship anarchy discourse". LUP Student Papers. Lund University Libraries. Retrieved 29 November 2021.
  9. ^ Nordgren, Andie. "The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy", Andie's Log, July 6, 2012.
  10. ^ "The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy". The Anarchist Library. Retrieved 2022-02-14.
  11. ^ "love relationship - His Secret Obsession Review". Retrieved 2021-11-21.
  12. ^ "So what's OpenCon all about, then? | Polytical". 2013-12-03. Archived from the original on 2013-12-03. Retrieved 2020-09-26.
  13. ^ "Rewriting the Rules of Relationships". Retrieved 2020-09-26.
  14. ^ Meyer, Gesa (2017). Polynormativity!? – Revisiting the relationship anarchist critique of polyamory (PDF). 2nd Non Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference. Sigmund Freud University, Vienna.
  15. ^ Rose, Amanda (2017). Relationship Anarchy: Breaking the paradigm (PDF). 2nd Non Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference. Sigmund Freud University, Vienna.
  16. ^ Pérez Cortés, Juan Carlos. (2020). Anarquía relacional : la revolución desde los vínculos. Madrid: La Oveja Roja. ISBN 978-84-16227-33-4. OCLC 1176250441.